>What is obvious to one is not obvious to another.
I guess you're right.
Right, check this:
A relationship built on equality gives BOTH partners equal chance to betray the other. Assuming you're not the betraying type, this gives your lady an unfair advantage.
A relationship built on mutual respect, likewise, gives whoever withdraws respect FIRST an advantage - there will be at least some point in time when you love her, and she doesn't love you, and as such you've just given something for nothing. You've lost.
Fortunately, Symmetrical relationships aren't necessary in nature; someone can always be superior to the other, with the power to tease, punish, control, enact cuddles, and demand cuddles in response.
Betrayal from your partner in this sense - a refusal to be cuddly towards you - is met with a prompt beating, trolling, or rape, situation dependent. Thus, betrayal isn't a bad thing at all, as you get to grin for having your vengeance, and your quarry gets to suffer for their misbehaviour, and as such you recover your losses. All is well.
What I'm suggesting doing with the lolidemon is reinforcing that dominant behaviour - train her, and force her into the role and the mindset that she is Ours, and that her feelings are constrained by what we want her to feel. We want her to laugh, she laughs. We want her to cry, she cries.
When we have established dominance, we claim our rightful reward of cuddles from the subservient loli-demon who knows (or at least has enough fear and common sense) not to disobey our commands for how she should feel, act, and cuddle.
Patience, people. First, you make them the submissive, and you the dominant.
Then, you claim them as your own.
Second last, you enjoy cuddles with them.
And finally, should they ever break their bond with you, you are in a perfect position to do something about it, ensuring that YOU leave the relationship on a happy note.